First Look Choices | Texas Hill Country Portrait Photographer
Have you put any thought into what you would like to do for your big day? Is the thought of seeing your fiancee before you walk down the aisle not something you're entirely sure of? Let's talk about it!
So first off, what is a "first look"?
A "first look" is when a bride gets to see the groom before the ceremony. It's definitely a fun private moment for the couple, and most find it very memorable, and helpful when starting the day. It's a big decision to make if you're considering it, so below, I will list some helpful options for you. I hope it'll help!
Want to do a "first look", but don't actually want to see each other before the ceremony? Keep reading!
Another type of "first look" is having a door separating the two of you. This usually is the more common route since the saying of, "seeing the bride before the ceremony will bring bad luck" can make a bride and groom feel nervous. This is definitely a fun alternative since you can be a bit more creative with it, and still spend some time with each other before the ceremony. Some will read each other letters, pray, and just give each other words of encouragement before that big walk. It can definitely be a lot more sentimental, and emotional, but it's also very rewarding. You're also not spoiling the surprise! The moment your fiancee sees your gorgeous gown, and how beautiful you look, it all comes as once. The walk down the aisle can be very emotional, but a good type of emotion. Happy, happy tears, and so much love!
If you're still not sure what to decide, here's another article on the pros and cons from real brides! Click here!
Regardless of what is chosen, the day will always be amazing because it'll be YOUR big day! You choose what is right for you as a couple, and don't let others influence your decision. I know it's easy to have input from family, but go with your heart. It's usually the better decision in the end!
Now, you're probably wondering, did I have a "first look"? I did! I'll write my perspective below, not as a photographer, but as a former bride.
A little before I got married, I was getting mixed input from both sides of the family. I didn't want to upset anyone by having a "first look", but I also knew what I wanted. In the end, Sam and I did a "first look", and I don't regret it in the least. It was a very emotional day for me since I had just gotten news that my aunt had passed away. So seeing Sam made all of my sadness go away. It helped bring me back into the moment, and it helped me feel a little happier walking down the aisle. I know that if I didn't see Sam before the ceremony, I would have been crying my eyes out. Not only because I was happy/nervous, but also because I was sad not seeing my aunt there for me.
Though, one of the main nerves I had during my big day was falling down the stairs. I was going to make my grand entrance from the second story of my suite, and knowing how clumsy I am, I knew I would fall flat on my face since I couldn't even see my toes! (I had a poofy dress) Thankfully, my dad helped me down the stairs, so everything worked out great.
If I had to go back to my big day, would I have not had a "first look"? Absolutely not. I am SO thankful I had one, and Sam feels the same way. We were able to talk a little before the ceremony, and throw out all of those happy tears before we became husband and wife. I cried so much during our "first look", but they were happy tears. I'm also thankful because my maid of honor was able to retouch my makeup before the ceremony.
A "first look" may not be for everyone. So I cannot stress it enough. Do what YOU think is right. Don't let any family members sway your decision, and definitely don't have your photographer force a "first look". Remember, this is YOUR big day. It's your time to shine!